A Good Friday Reflection on Sin

Father Clay’s perspective on sin has always resonated with me. He has helped me think of “sin” as the anxiety, suffering and pain we carry in ourselves or inflict on others. When I hear that God forgives sins, for me that means I have permission to stop beating myself up for something, that I canContinue reading “A Good Friday Reflection on Sin”

Love is not a sin

I felt so sad on Monday when I read that the Vatican is barring the blessing of same-sex unions, declaring that “God cannot bless sin.” It was a nasty reminder that I choose to stay in a religion that excludes nonconformists and women, and passes judgment on people even when they’re living their truest, mostContinue reading “Love is not a sin”

Holding a lost friend in love

A dear work friend of mine died by suicide almost five years ago. I woke up thinking about him today and just wanted to use this space to hold his memory in love for a moment. I love that he showed up for me today. At first it seemed random, but I remember that yesterdayContinue reading “Holding a lost friend in love”

When Will These Voices Integrate? When I Let Them

My fourth grader’s reading teacher challenges the kids to be aware of their “reading voice” and their “thinking voice” when they read books. That is, the part of the brain that’s reading the words, and the part that’s analyzing them at the same time. I overheard this on a Google Meet call recently and itContinue reading “When Will These Voices Integrate? When I Let Them”

Break on Through to the Other Side?

Last week my sixth grader’s homeroom teacher asked the kids to submit a goal for the year – something they wanted to accomplish in school, that was specific, measurable, timebound. All good things. Will’s first stab was to “get all A’s.” A fine, admirable outcome, but an outcome nonetheless – something that he could eitherContinue reading “Break on Through to the Other Side?”

2020’s Death Toll Is Getting To Me

I know two people who died last week, one from Covid, one after a long life and then a period of decline. I didn’t know either well, but both were part our neighborhood. Mike was the head custodian at my kids’ grade school, and John was a one-time neighbor whose daughter still lives next door.Continue reading “2020’s Death Toll Is Getting To Me”

Stay Rooted in Human-ness and Humaneness

I have been ashamed of some of my thoughts this week. I got mad at my kids for not focusing more during distance learning. I may have looked down on a teacher for imperfect grammar (like a really esoteric word choice issue). My initial thoughts about the President’s COVID-19 diagnosis were not generous. When myContinue reading “Stay Rooted in Human-ness and Humaneness”

Everyone loves a list: ways to allow God to transform us

I got in some good nature hiking, art observing and yoga yesterday. Lots of time to be quietly aware. Here are some tips from Father Clay for your reflective time. To allow God to transform us beyond purity and duty into the reign of God: Purity and Duty Be quietly aware of the Love (God)Continue reading “Everyone loves a list: ways to allow God to transform us”

Structure vs force: love and elearning

The second week of distance learning in St. Paul starts today. Last week was HARD. Not because the work was hard or the expectations too high, but because having to be all things to all people brings out the worst in me. My kids are used to being accountable to a teacher for their schoolContinue reading “Structure vs force: love and elearning”